communicating introversion with impact
l Iike getting my energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities. I'm excited when I'm around people and I like to energize other people. I like moving into action and making things happen. I generally feel at home in the world. I often understand a problem better when I can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say.
The following generally apply to me:
- I"m seen as "outgoing" or a "people person."
- I feel comfortable in groups and like working in them.
- I have a wide range of friends and know lots of people.
- I sometimes jump too quickly into an activity and don't allow enough time to think it over.
- Before I start a project, I sometimes forget to stop and get clear on what I want to do and why.
You may be an introverted person needing to communicate with impact. Or possibly a more extroverted person who wants to be present at a particular event but on this day don"t have the energy required to wear bright colors.
I am just back from an inspiring Milan trip...and was touched by the Paoli Roversi exhibition at Corso Como 10. It was a poetic collection of black and white photos that highlight how stillness and quiet can be portrayed with a richness and depth. They remind me of Giorgio Morandi paintings because there are so many layers and nuances to take in. Many years ago in Milan, I was having a review of my illustrations with my fashion drawing teacher. Her father, a painter and had worked with Morandi and Carra, and often reminded her of the importance of subtlety. He would talk about taking one idea, and squeezing every drop out of it before introducing another idea. She was calling me to look more intently before moving on to the next big idea. Otherwise she said, you spend too much energy jumping to big ideas when a small detail that might create a whole new perspective.
In fact, when a client sends an outfit photo and comments that it is boring...it is often a beautiful understated outfit in need of subtle nuance in color, cut or texture. Slow fashion is an act of introverted self-awareness, stepping back, reflecting your intention to become aware of what you really want to achieve. If you are introverted, or wishing to stay lower key and show up in a quieter way you can do so AND maintain interest. It is the detail of fabric and texture: smooth, structured. hard, soft. And in the cut: larger with smaller. and in the all the shades connected to your base color.
Interestingly, although the clothing shop and bookshop at Como 10 exude energetic outgoing energy, the gallery and cafe are a haven of peace. We finished lunch in a wonderfully boisterous trattoria nearby and took refuge in the quiet of the cafe. Introversion can be restful, in clothing and in spaces. It is about being purposeful and asking yourself two questions. What do I personally need in terms of energy right now? And what kind of energy do I want to project? need and want to project.
What do I personally need in terms of energy right now?
And what kind of energy do I want to project?
If you aren't sure if you are introverted or extroverted there is a short check from the MBTI site below.
Looking at Type: The Fundamentals by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)
I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I'll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing.
The following generally apply to me:
- I am seen as "reflective" or "reserved."
- I feel comfortable being alone
- I prefer to know just a few people well.
- I sometimes spend too much time reflecting and don't move into action quickly enough.
- I sometimes forget to check with the outside world to see if my ideas really fit the experience