SPEAK LIFE into your beauty
Confidence isn’t born in the moment you step into a meeting or interview—it starts long before, in the stillness of your thoughts. How you speak to yourself shapes the reality you create. As Rick Rubin so powerfully puts it, "Thoughts are like seeds. The more we nurture them, the more they grow into the life we lead." Your thoughts inevitably become words, and your words either elevate and inspire or tear down and diminish.
When you speak beautifully about your own colors—your hair, your skin, your eyes—you offer the same gift to those around you. Maybe no one has ever told them how their soft greys, deep browns, or warm beiges radiate a quiet elegance. How you frame your colors shapes the way others see theirs. The truth is, style is the art of decoding, and the language you choose has the power to either celebrate beauty or obscure it.
Words carry energy. When you describe your beige hair as “boring” or your brown eyes as “plain,” you’re telling a story not just about yourself, but about everyone who shares those traits. You’re broadcasting a message that the natural palette of their beauty is somehow less vibrant, less worthy of admiration. But when you shift the narrative—when you begin to speak of your colors with reverence, as an artist admiring the hues in a masterpiece—you invite others to do the same.
Imagine the shift when you begin to see your physical coloring—hair, eyes, skin—as a divine arrangement of tones that harmonize perfectly. God, or the universe, has given you the perfect palette, rich in its uniqueness and fully capable of telling a story all its own. This is where real confidence takes root, not in comparison, but in acceptance and celebration of the colors that make you who you are.
Too often, when I show clients the true beauty of their natural coloring, I hear them echo the words of an old wound: “My hair color is awful,” or “I’ve always hated my skin tone.” Somewhere along the way, they received a message that their colors weren’t enough—not from their true essence, but from a world too quick to impose its narrow definition of beauty. Whether from a careless comment, a TV commercial, or societal ideals, the damage was done.
But here’s the thing: you can change that narrative today. Take those thoughts that weigh you down—those that speak poorly of your beauty—and replace them with words that breathe life. You can be the first to speak beautifully about your own colors, and by doing so, you give others permission to celebrate their own.
Your beauty is not just in the colors themselves, but in how you see them—and how you allow others to see theirs. Speak with love, speak with reverence, and watch as the world around you begins to reflect the beauty you’ve discovered within.
Confidence requires acceptance of your beauty.
We cannot dislike how we look and exude authentic confidence. Words have the power to either build bridges or walls between us and our reflection. How we speak about our own features doesn’t just affect our confidence—it changes the way we feel in our skin. Often, my blonde clients will say they despise beige. “It’s drab and boring,” they insist. But what if we shifted the language? What if beige became sand, shell, honey, wheat, or radiant gold? Suddenly, the color is alive, vibrant, rich with possibility.
I’ve heard my African clients say, “I hate brown,” as though brown were somehow lesser. But why not elevate brown to espresso, mocha, walnut, or mahogany—words that evoke warmth, depth, and sophistication? One client with striking green eyes once told me, “Green is the last color I’d wear; it’s too woodsy.” But what if we spoke of emerald, olive, jade, or chartreuse instead? The magic is in the language we choose. Our words can either uplift or diminish. Let them be enchanting, inspiring, and creative. Style, like art, is the act of decoding, and how we describe our colors is the first step in unlocking their beauty.
When we speak lovingly and creatively about our own colors, we open the door for others to do the same. We break the pattern of self-criticism and set the stage for something new, something freeing.
The media may try to dictate what’s “in” or “out,” but here’s the truth: no natural color is ever out. Blonde hair will never be out. Brown skin or brown hair will never be out. Neither will grey, nor any other hue that belongs to you. Each of us carries a unique palette—a set of colors and combinations that belong only to us. Despite what fashion magazines might say, there is timeless beauty in every shade.
Be empowered by the words you choose. How you describe yourself is how you choose to show up in the world. Today, start with gratitude—for your hair, your eyes, your skin. Speak of them with love. These colors are yours—they are your strength and your signature. Fluency comes from mastering our creative tools, and language is one of the most powerful we possess. The more intentional you are with your words, the more fluent you become in the art of self-expression, and the freer you become in your personal style.
Start today by speaking beautifully—about yourself, and about the colors that make you uniquely you.
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